Vince Vaughn is famously quoted as screaming “u grows up and u grows up and u grows up!” in Swingers. Here’s a little video action for you:
So, in this weeks LetsBlogOff we’re asked “what did you want to be when you grew up?” And…well, quite frankly at one time or another (as I imagine is true for many people) I wanted to be just about everything under the sun. Here’s a small list, a taste, a teaser if you will:
Marine Corp Sniper
Evil Canival (Stunt Man for those who don’t know)
Pro Wrestler (FYI – I’m 5′-8″ and 165 lbs…..yeah)
That’s right, even at a young age I wanted to be an Architect. Even though I didn’t even understand what one was until I was in my teens. But I don’t think this is really at the heart of the question. The notion of “want” in the question is completely misleading. It leads us down a path of childlike innocence and wonder to ponder “what do I want to spend my life doing” rather than looking at our life as it is and asking “is this where I want to be and where do I go from here?” This is a more practical road to travel down, in my opinion. And so, here we go.
Looking back at my “10 year plan” from high school, which was about 13 years ago now, I am actually exactly where I thought I would be. Perhaps this means I’m not much of a dreamer or my goals were too practical, but there it is. I’m married, I have some awesome kids and I am a practicing architect (unlicenced). So, when I apply the question “what do I want to spend my life doing and where do I go from here”, I actually get a sense of satisfaction.
Because I genuinely LOVE what I do. Now, that is not to say that my life is all milk and honey and dandelions. I, like many, have financial issues and family issues and professional issues, etc etc. But that doesn’t mean that I’m not happy where I am or less satisfied with the path I’m currently on. The reason for that is because “architecture”, or “architect”, is not merely something that I “do”. I AM an Architect. Call it DNA, call it Destiny, call it a calling, whatever. If I were not an Architect, or if I were not practicing architecture in some capacity you can bet your ass I’d be on a ledge somewhere staring at “the great beyond”.
Instead of wondering “what do I want to be” when grown, I have grown into who I was always meant to be. There were small choices along the way that got me here, but “choice” isn’t really a factor when you consider that there is nothing else I would rather dedicate my life to than the profession, the art, the science, the passion of architecture.
So, where are you in your journey? Are you where you were always meant to be or are you facing a crossroads of “where do I go from here”? Either way you’ve only got one life to live. Make it a good one.
Well, I can’t say I thought too much of the Vince Vaughn thing. I don’t know anything about him as a real-life person, of course, but the character he portrayed is vey much the kind of person I have avoided all of my life. It’s somewhat ironical that such a jerk should be bleating about growing up!
As for your own goals, and how they turned out, I think that’s pretty slick. Not too many people really follow a straight line from here to there. Most of us tend to bounce around from goal to goal or from job to job or both. But, as you well know, when you’re doing what you love for a living, it’s really not work at all.
Hey, Joe! Thanks for the comments. Yeah, the video really has nothing to do with the post, per se, other than….well, it’s just funny. I think we all know “that guy” at the end of the night. 😉
I appreciate the kudos on my “goals”. And to be quite honest, I’ve done my fair share of “bouncing” around, but it’s been a fairly straight path as you pointed out. I’ve never had a back up plan though. Hell, I never really had A PLAN. I just went for it (architecture) because it was the only thing that made sense.
Thanks again! Cheers.
wow – that is some list (and it’s Evel Knievel – I have an awesome shirt from almost 20 years ago with him on it)
I am glad you found your true calling … although the world of pro wrestling may never recover.
Ha! Thanks for spelling correction. I used to have an autographed photo of him long. Long ago. 🙂 architecture is moderately safer. 😉
I think it’s great that you are what you wanted to be and are loving it. It doesn’t mean you weren’t a dreamer – it means you were and are!
Evel Knievel was living in a trailer about four miles from where I’m sitting when he died. Be glad you didn’t take that path. Is that too morose? In any event, thanks for joining in on another Let’s Blog Off adventure and thanks for letting us get a glimpse of how you came to be who you are.
Yeah, but he did what he loved to do. And if his body had let him, I bet he would have died doing what he loved instead of being in that trailer. Passion in life isn’t reasonable and I wouldn’t want it to be. 🙂
“…I have grown into who I was always meant to be…” I like that. I told you a while ago, that architecture chose me. Now I may have to write my story. I’ve enjoyed yours.
YES! Write your story, my man! 🙂 Shout it from someplace very high!
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